A few days ago I've received this question on my my ask.fm page:
"Bang Najmul Fajri, menurutmu umur berapa yang matang nikah? Give me some reasons!"
My answer was:
"First things first, I'm so not happy with the fact that here in our local community it has been socially constructed so well that you have certain ages to settle down.
Lo nikah umur 23 - 26, and all the people believe that you have perfectly made the most right decision.
Lo mutusin nikah in your 30s, you are suddenly the talk of the town! Countless of speculations regarding your well-being might arise out of empty air and hit your wall *rolling eyes*
I mean come on, age does not define how mature of a person you are and marriage is not a petty thing you could just decide to do whenever you want.
Getting married means you are about to share your WHOLE life with somebody else for God's sake.
Your flaws, your golds, your thoughts, your idealism, your belief, your responsibilities, your dreams, your secrets.
E V E R Y T H I N G.
Really dude, it is not simply about how old you are, it is all about how ready you are! So, no, I won't tell you what is the best age to marry.
Because trust me, when you are ready, you just know it
#JustSharing
"Bang Najmul Fajri, menurutmu umur berapa yang matang nikah? Give me some reasons!"
My answer was:
"First things first, I'm so not happy with the fact that here in our local community it has been socially constructed so well that you have certain ages to settle down.
Lo nikah umur 23 - 26, and all the people believe that you have perfectly made the most right decision.
Lo mutusin nikah in your 30s, you are suddenly the talk of the town! Countless of speculations regarding your well-being might arise out of empty air and hit your wall *rolling eyes*
I mean come on, age does not define how mature of a person you are and marriage is not a petty thing you could just decide to do whenever you want.
Getting married means you are about to share your WHOLE life with somebody else for God's sake.
Your flaws, your golds, your thoughts, your idealism, your belief, your responsibilities, your dreams, your secrets.
E V E R Y T H I N G.
Really dude, it is not simply about how old you are, it is all about how ready you are! So, no, I won't tell you what is the best age to marry.
Because trust me, when you are ready, you just know it
#JustSharing
